I am very conscious of the fact that nearly everything you read about online dating safety is directly targeted at women.  As a woman I find this very disturbing, as men need to be concerned as well.

Liars, cheaters, perverts and weirdoes are not only “Male” it pains me to say that they can also be female.

You should always be extremely careful and not readily give out personal information to anyone until you get to know them very, very well. So many strangers want your information for all sorts of reasons. If you come across a person who is giving out personal information and asking others to do the same, alarm bells should be ringing, and a big red stop sign should appear in front of you flashing “don’t do it”.

You don’t know what they want to use this information for and as sure as spring comes before summer, you had better believe they will want to use it for “something” and that “something” will not be in your best interests.

Men, also, need to guard their real names, addresses, phone numbers, and place of employment, identity theft is ripe. Please do not give that information to anyone online until you are confident that they are who they say they are and that their intentions are honorable.  Also think for a moment, why is that information necessary if you are only going to talk online for a while.  Information like that should only be given if you’re in a “Relationship”.

Again as a woman I am ashamed to say, guys be very wary of women who seem too financially needy, if money is asked for and believe me, there are dozens of ways women can ask for money, cut the relationship off immediately.  These women are not looking for love or even friendship….they are looking for financial help.

Two more things, before I finish this brief post – if a woman gives you a contact number but you cannot ever reach her at that number, beware… let the “Warning, Warning Bells starts to sound” plus f you always have to page them or text them and have them call you back, this could be a sign that what they are telling you is not the complete truth… …

A need to get married and insecurity are other signs men should be very wary of.  If the woman is pushing too hard for a commitment you aren’t ready to make, it might be a good time to head for the nearest exit.

Until Next Time.

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Introduction. 5

The Mystery Of Dating. 6

Blind Dates: The Good, The Bad And Ugly. 6

Chapter Summaries. 7

Chapter 1 – Blind Date Fact and Fallacy. 9

CHAPTER SUMMARY.. 12

Chapter 2 – Blind Dating Do’s and Don’ts. 14

Blind Date Do’s. 14

Blind Date Don’ts. 19

CHAPTER SUMMARY.. 24

Chapter 3- Blind Date Conversation Starters. 25

Conversation Tips For The First Blind Date. 25

Good Conversation Starters. 26

What To Do During Uncomfortable Silences. 29

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For Men. 31

For Women. 35

Body Language During A Blind Date. 38

Signs That Things Aren’t Working. 39

Flirting Tips. 40

Top Female Flirting Tricks. 41

How To Have A Good Time. 42

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Chapter 5- Frequently Asked Questions. 44

Conclusion. 49

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Chapter 2 – Blind Dating Do’s
and Don’ts

In the last chapter, we spent some time debunking the top three facts and fallacies when it comes to blind dating.

Remember, most of the negative press about blind dating comes from quirky television shows or ungrounded stereotypes.

There are far more positives about blind dating than there are negatives. As
long as you keep an open mind, chances are you will have a very good time on
your blind date.

Now it is time to look at the do’s and don’ts of dating.

This chapter is relevant whether you plan to go on a blind date or any date. You should pay attention to the tips in this chapter, going as far as highlighting key do’s and don’ts along the way. This will help you from making critical mistakes when you do go on your first date. Remember, there are just some things you should always do when meeting someone new, just as there are some behaviours or activities you must avoid.

Blind dating has it’s own special cocktail of do’s and don’ts for some. We’ve
covered as many of these as we can below. The simple strategies and tips
provided in this chapter will help you survive a date but also have a great
time.

Let us look at each of these independently, so your tool belt is armed with
helpful tips before planning your next blind date.

Blind Date Do’s

What are you supposed to do on a blind date? How do you ensure you have a good time?

These are common questions men and women both have before going on a blind date.

Fortunately, we have the answers you need. Follow these do’s and your chances of having a successful date are very good!

Do Allow A Friend You Trust To Set You Up On A Blind Date

Our friends often know us best. Who else to trust to set you up on a date

than a good friend? Often our friends see qualities in us we may not instantly
recognize in ourselves. They recognize our good traits, the positive in us and
get a good handle on our likes and dislikes. A good friend is your best
companion when it comes to dating. You can usually rely on a good friend for a good date… unless they are setting you up for their own benefit (like so they
can go out with someone they like).

So first make sure your friend is setting you up out of genuine interest, to
make sure you get the most of your blind date. Then let them have at it. You
should always feel open to the possibility of a blind date from a good friend.
In addition, the best part is you can be honest about your experiences of your
date with a good friend, without worrying about hurting their feelings.

Set Up a Double Date on the First Date

Going on a first date with someone you know nothing about, or have never met, is a bit awkward. In fact, going on a double date is a good idea even if you are going out with someone you know well for the first time.

The best reason to go on a double date is it takes a lot of pressure off your date.  Things are always a lot easier when you are in a group then when you are alone. If you are having trouble with conversation for example, your friend can help you out.

If going on a blind date, going out with another couple will help relieve
much of the tension and awkwardness associated with a blind date. It helps if
you are in the company of good friends when dating.

If things do not go well, the circumstances will feel less awkward when you have a good friend sitting by your side. There is also much less chance of long, lingering and awkward silences when you double up on a date.

Great Places for A  First Blind Date

Do Keep an Open Mind

When going on a blind date, it is hard to go into it with an open mind. But this is the best thing you can do to ensure a positive dating experience. In fact, the more open-minded you are about your date, the more likely you are to experience dating success (instead of a disaster).

One of the biggest closed-minded approaches people take when dating is having a preconceived notion about what their date should look like. For example, some people may say, “I will only date tall, dark and handsome men.” What if the love of your life turns out to be a short, blond and average looking guy? Truthfully, you never know who you will fall in love with.

But, one thing is certain. Keeping a closed mind about your date will prevent
you from possibly meeting the date of your dreams. So keep an open mind going into your date and throughout your date. If you meet your date and do not instantly fall in love, do not feel discouraged. If the man or woman ringing
your doorbell doesn’t fit your “ideal” image of a person, let it go. Give it a
chance.

Most people think if they do not instantly feel attracted to someone then a
date will fail. Do not go into a date with the preconceived notion that only someone as tall and handsome as Brad Pitt or some other famous celebrity will make the cut. Keep an open mind. If you meet someone who messes up their introduction to you, laugh it off.

Remember, your date is probably just as nervous and awkward as you are. The more light and airy and open-minded you seem, the more likely your date will turn out positive, even if you do not meet Mr. or Mrs.’s right.

Do Keep Things Light

The number one way you can mess up a blind date is by making your date too serious. This will only lead to an awkward meeting and trouble down-the-line.

How do you prevent this mistake? Keep conversation light and breezy. This
relieves any pressure associated with a serious environment or dating situation.

Do not go into your date with an “all or nothing” approach. Do not go into your
date thinking if it fails, it is the end of your life.

Do not plan a romantic dinner at the world’s most infamous restaurant for
romance. Avoid scheduling a blind date on Valentine’s Day. This simply adds too much pressure to the atmosphere. Instead, schedule something fun and airy.

Skip the movies, because you will not have any time to talk. Instead, go out for coffee or a brisk walk along the park. Keep everything short and sweet, and
chances are you will come out of your date with a positive mind and experience.

Do Smile a Lot

Smiling, even when you date goes poorly, will keep you feeling positive. It will also help your date think of you in a positive light. The more you smile, the better your outlook and the better impression you will have of your date.

Even if you are having a bad time on your date, try smiling. You may find the
entire situation strikes you as a lot more humorous than it might if you were
simply pouting about everything. Your date will also come away with a positive impression of you, whether or not they had a good time (though chances are if you are smiling, they will have a good time and so will you).

Do Turn Off  Your Cell Phone

One of the biggest date busters is the cell phone. No one wants to go on a

date with someone who has too many “other” people to talk to when their
concentration should be on the person they are out on a date with.

Let us say that one more time to make things clear. There is nothing more
off-putting than someone answering their phone every five minutes, no matter how important you are. In addition, don’t try the old emergency phone call bail out trick. It is old and tacky. If you are having a horrible time, say so and leave.

It’s better to be honest than spare both of you the agony of an obvious ploy to
“escape” or leave. Just be nice about it. Think about how rude it is anyway to
use your cell phone when you are supposed to be interacting with anyone.

Think it is ok to use your cell phone while in the checkout line? Think
again. Your check out clerk deserves to feel like a person. Your blind date does
too.

Do not rely on your cell phone unless you absolutely have to. If you feel
you must have a number where someone can reach you in an emergency, leave the number of the place you are meeting someone with a friend.

Do Bring Some Cash

You should always have some cash handy when on a blind date. You may want to pay for half of your drinks or meal if going out. You may find you need to call a cab after your date. You just never know when a few bucks may come in handy.

It pays to have a little cash handy in the event you need quick access to money. You can of course also have a credit card handy. If your date is not going well however, cash is much better than credit for paying a tab quickly and leaving the scene.

Do Look Eager and Offer A Grin On Greeting Your Date

The simplest way to make a positive impression on your date is to smile

really big the instant you meet your date. Whether you are surprised by their
appearance or gratified, you want to send a positive message. The smile on your
face will help put your date at ease and start your day off right.

What are some other do’s you should consider for your date? Here are some
quick do’s to remember:

• Do relax before your date. Take some deep breaths.
• Do withhold judgment.
• Do cancel your date if you are sick or in a bad mood, or you are likely
  to have a bad time. Just be sure to reschedule promptly if you want to
  pursue a date with the person in the future.
• Do be honest. If you do not plan to call your date back, do not pretend
  you will.

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Now Look to sum it all up I know if you follow the suggestions in this book, you
will enjoy and have so much fun and feel fantastic on your blind date and a
sense of balance and harmony will be created.

In Advance I sincerely thank you for buying this book and ask that you look
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From page 5 –

Being a Woman

A lot of the problems we have in our relationships stem from a lack of understanding, in other words we have no idea why guys act the way they do. In fact, they often don’t know why they act the way they do so it’s no surprise we have trouble deciphering their responses.

However, before we begin to explore these fundamental differences, it’s worth taking a step back and looking at ourselves in the mirror because if we don’t learn to finally accept who and what we are, we will never be able to make the necessary changes to become the woman men adore.

I would say the biggest problem we women have right now is our perception of ourselves. Women’s lib has been taken to a whole new level and from simply meaning that women should have equal rights to men in society, it has come to mean that women should not be women and they should act more like men.

The reason for this is quite simple. Men are competitive by nature, women are not. Therefore, to succeed in the workplace, more and more women have had to become just as competitive as men and in many cases more so because they start out with a handicap in the eyes of the competition, namely they are women.

Unfortunately, though, many women have taken this competition to a whole new level and their drive to succeed has convinced them that being a woman means being weak, so they have to shut off their feelings and act more like the guys they work with.

Sadly women are grossly mistaken by doing this, because our femininity is in no way a weakness, but, in fact, a strength, as it is the one thing that allows us to influence men much more effectively than any argument or competition ever will.

Men are disarmed by a woman’s softness simply because men were designed to fight and women were designed to nurture.

Women Offer Advice, Men Offer Solutions

What many women don’t seem to understand is that men are completely different. They process information differently; they relate to one another differently, they express themselves differently. However, a woman who understands these differences will become a priceless gem that men will adore. John Gray, in Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus explains it wonderfully: “Love is magical, and it can last, if we remember our differences.”

In fact, it is these exact differences between men and women that spark passion and love because otherwise men wouldn’t need women and vice versa.

Understanding Men

Yes, it is quite possible to understand men and it is probably easier for us to understand them than the other way around. And no, you haven’t stepped into an episode of the Twilight Zone.

First of all, you need to understand that men are primarily driven by success and accomplishment. They value tangible results, efficiency and power and everything they do is geared towards proving themselves.

Men won’t sit around and talk about their feelings; instead they prefer to engage in competitive activities where they can win. It gives them the chance to show off their superiority over other males.

You won’t find a man reading the latest issue of People or Cosmo but instead he will read the sports section of the paper or the news. He cares little about romance novels because he is more interested in things rather than feelings. And he likes things that help him express power, whether a fancy sports car or the latest gadgets and gizmos.

Solutions vs. Advice

Men are goal driven and they feel good about themselves when they manage to achieve their goals because they prove that they are worthy and competent. If they achieve this on their own then that is an even greater testament to their power and strength.

Because men are hardwired to solve their problems on their own they rarely talk about them. When they do, it means they need advice and help.

If women can understand this side of men, then they will understand why men hate being corrected or advised without asking for it. It makes them feel incompetent and they feel that you don’t trust them to solve the problem.

This is also why men tend to offer solutions when women talk to them about their problems. It is because if another man were to share his problems, it is an unspoken request for help so he feels honored to provide a solution.

When he provides a solution for the woman he loves, it is an expression of his love but when a woman gets upset because she perceives that he isn’t listening or emphasizing he has no idea what he did to upset her. The result is that he withdraws and basically blocks her out.

In order to stop this, I would start the conversation with a man, “Look I am not asking you for advice, I just want to talk to you about what is on my mind” that way, you are setting the scene.

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How many of us, have had thoughts such as that recently?  I bet I am not the only one.  But I don’t feel like a Senior, honestly I don’t and I know that I think and even act at times younger than some of the 30 and 40 year olds I know!

I am a senior in the Baby Boomer Generation you know born between 1942 and 1964 the time of the Beatles, The Vietnam War, mini skirts, Woodstock and such like, way back when honestly I never gave a thought of becoming a senior, I didn’t even think in terms of “Senior” gosh, anyone over the age of 40 in my mind was “Old”.  But how life changes us!

After a conversation with one of my good friends, I sat down the other day and almost cried when I thought of the time that had passed, of the many things I had done in my life so far, plus the many things still to do and of course during this time of reflection came the inevitable regrets.  A wise man once said regret weigh tonnes and I think he was right.

Honestly, think about how much life has dished up to all of us, the stresses,strains, arguments, lack of money, marriage, sleepless nights with the kids (if you had any), Divorce (if you went down the isle), sickness, being fired from a job, lack of confidence due to many things, but especially now with all the new technology, things left unsaid, things said in anger, opportunities not taken, need I go on?  I could write pages and pages on the subject, but would that be living in the past? I think so.

Why am I putting all this on paper?  Well  here goes, I have a friend who is “Mature” well according to her she is “well over the hill” she isn’t really she is gorgeous 61 year old, who feels she has some baggage from the past, and would really like to get into the mature dating scene.  I say would like to, but she is scared, lacking in confidence.  On discussions with her about this, she said she has searched senior dating services and senior dating sites and has been put off, because she feels over whelmed and has a Fear of Being Preyed Upon, Humiliated, Embarrassed and Ripped Off and doesn’t want to make another mistake in her life plus she really thinks that no one would want to go dating older women.

This discussion took place by the way at a fantastic Seafood Restaurant overlooking the water whilst devouring a seafood platter and downing a good bottle of wine.  The Waitress overheard some of this and started to laugh and said you know my Grandad has been scouring the Internet to find anything he can on seniors online dating.  But he is really scared, and thinks he will give it up as a bad joke as he feels that no one would be interested in him plus he feels that he will be ripped off if he went and signed with some of the sites.

On further discussion with her, it also came about he was very embarrassed also to think his life had come to looking on line for companionship, after being married for so long before his wife died. Oh My, I thought, how many others think this way and what would it take to get them to think differently, to get a better perspective on what they call “Baggage” which in reality is just life.

Could they get good resources to help prepare them if they were genuinely interested in finding companionship or even love through Seniors Online Dating.

The question begged to be asked are there good quality resources out there that can help?

Resources that can be purchased read and studied in the privacy of ones home in order to get a complete and full understanding of where you have come from in life, where you are now and give the confidence to move on.  Plus a resource that can teach you all about Mature Dating so when you go online, you feel in control and feel you know what you are doing, something that is affordable, something that is quality.

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Getting Your Head-Space Right

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What more can I say, except, don’t just think your life is over because you are a Baby Boomer, now reaching a “Tender Mature” age.  Embrace life, if you feel you want to find companionship online go for it, BUT with a proviso – make sure you have put your “Baggage” into its appropriate place and learnt a few tips to
protect yourself online.

Until next time

Questions and More Questions – Asking a whole lot of questions whilst chatting with a potential date is vitally important – the more you ask, the more you will learn about the person and the more you can see if they are feeding you a whole lot of cow dung. (Like I said there are more good people of out there than bad, but …. … it pays to be cautious)

Comfortable – Keep on asking yourself and checking in with your feeling when talking with your potential date – “Am I feeling Comfortable with this”, “Do I feel Comfortable with this”

Agreement on a Date – Make sure you do not rush this, or you have not been pushed into a meeting.  You must know as much about the person you are meeting as possible.

Personal Information – Don’t give your home or work address to anyone you agree to meet until you know you will spend more time with them i.e. take it slow before (a few more dates or even more!) before giving such vital information.

Meeting Places – Always meet in a well lit public place in fact for the first date, why not take a friend, and tell the person you are meeting, you will be at such and such place with a friend having coffee, why not meet me there, and say hi.

The reason I have suggested this is that, it will be a time limited first meeting, you will have a friend there, you can then “Get a Feel” of the person you are meeting, and then chat again with them online, before the next date if you are going to take it that far.  If it turns out that you have a second date – then once again meet in a public place, well lit, take your phone with you and tell a friend and your family, where you are going, what time you will be home and with whom you are meeting.

See where I am going here – Still being Cautious, whilst moving forward.

Going Home – Never accept a ride home with the person you are meeting until you have got to know them over a good space of time.

Ok, too over cautious you say?  Well I am not sure, It is your safety we are on about, If you’re a guy reading this, you might say, hang on a minute, I can look after myself – I say, Man or Woman, please do not throw caution to the wind.  Life and Love is precious, and a little bit of caution is wise.

Take Care, Until Next time