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REVIEW left from one happy customer on Amazon
“desperately needed some genuine advice, I found it here,
By Jennifer Lee
This review is from: Be the Woman Men Adore (Straight Talk Women to Women) (Kindle Edition)
I’ll admit I was a bit hesitant to read this book at first. I’ve always been taught to just be yourself, and people will like you for who you are. I’ll also admit that I desperately needed some genuine advice on how take a relationship with a certain guy I’m with to that “next level”. We’ve been getting along great, but I knew there was something I was missing. We’ve been together for almost a year and he does have some issues, not related to me, that have made things somewhat difficult between us.
I purchased this book, not as a last resort, but as a way to better connect with my man. And boy am I glad I took the chance, because just reading this book not only made me feel a hundred times better but also gave me some incredibly helpful (and much needed!) input on specific things I can do to take this relationship to the next level, and keep it there!
I can’t say enough about how much the author’s advice has helped my relationship. Again, I feel like I should of known some of the things she spoke about, and maybe I did and just forgot, but reading them in this e-book has made all the difference for us. Thank you so much for writing this, I’m very grateful to have found it!”
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From page 5 –
Being a Woman
A lot of the problems we have in our relationships stem from a lack of understanding, in other words we have no idea why guys act the way they do. In fact, they often don’t know why they act the way they do so it’s no surprise we have trouble deciphering their responses.
However, before we begin to explore these fundamental differences, it’s worth taking a step back and looking at ourselves in the mirror because if we don’t learn to finally accept who and what we are, we will never be able to make the necessary changes to become the woman men adore.
I would say the biggest problem we women have right now is our perception of ourselves. Women’s lib has been taken to a whole new level and from simply meaning that women should have equal rights to men in society, it has come to mean that women should not be women and they should act more like men.
The reason for this is quite simple. Men are competitive by nature, women are not. Therefore, to succeed in the workplace, more and more women have had to become just as competitive as men and in many cases more so because they start out with a handicap in the eyes of the competition, namely they are women.
Unfortunately, though, many women have taken this competition to a whole new level and their drive to succeed has convinced them that being a woman means being weak, so they have to shut off their feelings and act more like the guys they work with.
Sadly women are grossly mistaken by doing this, because our femininity is in no way a weakness, but, in fact, a strength, as it is the one thing that allows us to influence men much more effectively than any argument or competition ever will.
Men are disarmed by a woman’s softness simply because men were designed to fight and women were designed to nurture.
Women Offer Advice, Men Offer Solutions
What many women don’t seem to understand is that men are completely different. They process information differently; they relate to one another differently, they express themselves differently. However, a woman who understands these differences will become a priceless gem that men will adore. John Gray, in Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus explains it wonderfully: “Love is magical, and it can last, if we remember our differences.”
In fact, it is these exact differences between men and women that spark passion and love because otherwise men wouldn’t need women and vice versa.
Understanding Men
Yes, it is quite possible to understand men and it is probably easier for us to understand them than the other way around. And no, you haven’t stepped into an episode of the Twilight Zone.
First of all, you need to understand that men are primarily driven by success and accomplishment. They value tangible results, efficiency and power and everything they do is geared towards proving themselves.
Men won’t sit around and talk about their feelings; instead they prefer to engage in competitive activities where they can win. It gives them the chance to show off their superiority over other males.
You won’t find a man reading the latest issue of People or Cosmo but instead he will read the sports section of the paper or the news. He cares little about romance novels because he is more interested in things rather than feelings. And he likes things that help him express power, whether a fancy sports car or the latest gadgets and gizmos.
Solutions vs. Advice
Men are goal driven and they feel good about themselves when they manage to achieve their goals because they prove that they are worthy and competent. If they achieve this on their own then that is an even greater testament to their power and strength.
Because men are hardwired to solve their problems on their own they rarely talk about them. When they do, it means they need advice and help.
If women can understand this side of men, then they will understand why men hate being corrected or advised without asking for it. It makes them feel incompetent and they feel that you don’t trust them to solve the problem.
This is also why men tend to offer solutions when women talk to them about their problems. It is because if another man were to share his problems, it is an unspoken request for help so he feels honored to provide a solution.
When he provides a solution for the woman he loves, it is an expression of his love but when a woman gets upset because she perceives that he isn’t listening or emphasizing he has no idea what he did to upset her. The result is that he withdraws and basically blocks her out.
In order to stop this, I would start the conversation with a man, “Look I am not asking you for advice, I just want to talk to you about what is on my mind” that way, you are setting the scene.
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